Look at the power of influence in our lives and see how it is possible to be nudged off course a little at a time until, finally, we find ourselves asking, “How did I get here?”
Ask yourself three key questions:
“Who am I around?” You've got to evaluate everybody who is able to influence you in any way.
“What are these associations doing to me?” That's a major question to ask. What have they got me doing, listening to, reading, thinking and feeling? You've got to make a serious study of how others are influencing you, both negatively and positively.
“Is that okay?” Maybe everyone you associate with has been a positive, energizing influence. Then again, maybe there are some bad apples in the bunch. All I'm suggesting here is that you take a close and objective look. Everything is worth a second look, especially the power of influence. Both will take you somewhere, but only one will take you in the direction you need to go.
Now let's discuss three ways to handle associations or relationships that are holding you back.
1) Disassociate. This is not an easy decision, nor something you should take lightly, but in some cases it may be essential. You may just have to make the hard choice not to let certain negative influences affect you anymore. It could be a choice that preserves the quality of your life.
2) Limited association. Spend major time with major influences and minor time with minor influences. It is easy to do just the opposite, but don't fall into that trap. Take a look at your priorities and your values. We have so little time at our disposal. Wouldn't it make sense to invest it wisely?
3) Expanding your associations. This is the one I suggest you focus on the most. Find other successful people who you can spend more time with. Invite them to lunch (pick up the tab) and ask them how they have achieved so much or what makes them successful. Now, this is not just about financial success; it can be someone who you want to learn from about having a better marriage, being a better parent, having better health or a stronger spiritual life.
It is called association on purpose—getting around the right people by expanding your circle of influence. And when you do that, you will naturally limit the relationships that are holding you back. Give it a try and see for yourself.
~ Jim Rohn
Live The Life You've Dreamed,
Derrick
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Monday, October 25, 2010
Sunday, October 10, 2010
Guest Post: Make a Dent in the Universe
"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life.
Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of
other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions
drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the
courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already
know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."-Steve Jobs
Most of us crave to have an impact.
Most of us desire to make a difference.
We all want to leave things better than we found them.
Apple CEO Steve Jobs used to tell his people that
by showing up at their best, they would have the opportunity
to "make a dent in the world"
Jobs understands that it's important to make a profit
in business. Sure you want your business to run on
excellence. Sure you want high quality products and
services. And sure you need to keep innovating
and growing your brand and your business.
But isn't having an impact in the world by helping your
customers and clients - and positively inspiring
and influencing others - what business is all about?
So a question for you to contemplate is:
What "dent" will you make today? What cause will you
pursue? What contribution will you make... at work,
at home, and in life?
Lead From Within: Each one of us can make a difference
and make a dent in the universe. What will your dent be
this week, this month, this year?
To your success,
Lolly Daskal
http://www.lollydaskal.com/
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Making YOUR Dent in the universe!
Live The Life You've Dreamed,
Derrick
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Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Celebrate all Wins
By now, I hope you have been able to identify your "Little Voice" and start to challenge it when it is giving you a hard time. Last week, you learned how to stop the "Little Voice" so you could you make decisions that are in your best interest instead of giving into the negativity of your "Little Voice".
Today I will give you another technique to manage your "Little Voice". This one will give you the ability to train yourself to feel strong, confident, and powerful by anchoring experiences of success. So, in times of adversity, you can draw on positive experiences to fight off your negative "Little Voice". What does that actually mean?
It's simple, Celebrate all Wins! Every time you experience a little (or big) success, clench your fist, pull it in and say "YESSSS!" This will help you recall this experience of winning and success at a time your "Little Voice" is telling you that you cannot succeed. Your energy will go up AND put you in a winning frame of mind as you deal with whatever challenge may come your way.
Next week, look for another technique on managing your "Little Voice" so you can win the war between your ears and achieve the life of your dreams.
Be awesome!
Blair
Live The Life You've Dreamed,
Derrick
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Today I will give you another technique to manage your "Little Voice". This one will give you the ability to train yourself to feel strong, confident, and powerful by anchoring experiences of success. So, in times of adversity, you can draw on positive experiences to fight off your negative "Little Voice". What does that actually mean?
It's simple, Celebrate all Wins! Every time you experience a little (or big) success, clench your fist, pull it in and say "YESSSS!" This will help you recall this experience of winning and success at a time your "Little Voice" is telling you that you cannot succeed. Your energy will go up AND put you in a winning frame of mind as you deal with whatever challenge may come your way.
Next week, look for another technique on managing your "Little Voice" so you can win the war between your ears and achieve the life of your dreams.
Be awesome!
Blair
Live The Life You've Dreamed,
Derrick
___________________________________________________________
Affiliate Disclosure: We are grateful to be of service and bring you content, like this blog, free of charge. In order to do this, please note that whenever you click the links in our emails and purchase items, in most (not all) cases we will receive a referral commission. Your support in purchasing through these links enables us to empower more people worldwide to live lives of their own design. Thank you! :)
Friday, October 1, 2010
Do Your Worst, for I Will Do Mine!
"Do Your Worst, for I Will Do Mine!"
By David Blanchard
________________________________________
We are living in a most interesting time. Daily, waves of bad news pound against our already badly damaged economy shaking the fragile underpinnings of business and our personal lives. When we personally experience any of these very real, yet unwanted difficulties, we can easily be swept away into the depths of anxiety, frustration and despair.
It is difficult enough to swim against the tide, let go of the anxiety and climb up and out of these circumstances without adding the burden of destructive and unhealthy thought processes. When we engage in destructive thought processes, we engage in fantasy and attempt to put tomorrow's gold in today's purse. We concern ourselves with events, which we may never witness, or we torment ourselves with problems that may never come to pass, that is until they finally become self-fulfilling prophesies.
Og Mandino writes about these unhealthy and destructive habits of thinking, "I have surrendered my free will to the years of accumulated habits and the past deeds of my life have already marked out a path which threatens to imprison my future."
If we get swept into this dark dungeon of the mind it can add enormous amounts of unwanted stress to our lives. Unnecessary stress often results in decreased creativity and productivity, two of the most critical ingredients of success. The inevitable result of these decreases is simply more stress.
In our personal relationships this level of stress can impair our clarity. We can quickly become short-sighted and short-tempered. This slippery slope can destroy commitment and trust, dampen if not destroy much needed intimacy and rip apart once loving relationships. Innocent children often pay the highest price when we are myopic.
However, when we learn to think constructively, we receive inspired ideas, impressions and solutions to problems. This clear vision ignites our passion, which drives our focus, discipline, effort and action. As we live in the now in passion-driven action, people are put on our path whom we can serve and who can serve us. Our natural genius is awakened and accessed. We create tangible results and experience a sense of accomplishment. Our self-esteem heals and our confidence is restored.
When faced with challenges, we create the most we can with what we have been given and see opportunity even if it is limited. We feel connected and alive. In spite of firestorms of life that may be raging around us, we are able to stand with confidence and shout as Albert in the movie, The Count of Monte Cristo, "Do your worst, for I will do mine!"
Viktor Frankl wrote, immediately following his release from a concentration camp, "Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances."
Viktor shared this timely principle in a most poignant context. While in the camp he lost his pregnant wife, his mother and father and several good friends. They were all killed. His life's work, an exhaustive manuscript, was torn up in his face while vile and angry tormenters cursed and scoffed. Everything he had lived for, his family and career, was brutally destroyed.
Viktor and others who were spared from the gas chambers were assigned to grueling work details — an interminable sentence to hell. Beaten down by the shear gravity of their desperate and dire circumstances and with no hope in sight, many gave up. They simply died in their sleep. However, Viktor noted that those who used their minds to vividly visualize constructively, created a clear vision that gave them purpose in their suffering and joy in their journey despite all the catastrophic losses. Many survived.
We would never want to compare the challenges of our day with the horror of a concentration camp. It would be an insult to humanity. What we can do is learn this valuable lesson. In spite of the unspeakable, many still made the conscious decision to exercise the last of the human freedoms — to consciously choose one's attitude in any circumstance, and Viktor meant "any circumstance."
From his words and actions and all those who courageously joined him in this conscious decision to think constructively and live, we can take courage. We can learn how to be okay while standing in the middle of the firestorms of life. When we do, we are free to be in creation — mentally and physically.
To think constructively, find peace of mind and stay in creation, we may have to change some of our old, deeply seated and unhealthy habits of thinking. James Allen wrote, "Let a man radically alter his thoughts and he will be astonished at the rapid transformation it will effect in the material conditions of his life."
It is time to learn the truth about vivid visualization. It is time to know how to use this powerful gift constructively to manifest inspired ideas that will ignite passion and drive action. Let us learn the truth, alter old and destructive habits of thinking and experience the joy and freedom that will inevitably be ours.
Og Mandino says it best in his perennial bestselling book, The Greatest Salesman in the World, "I will begin to awake, each morning, with a vitality I have never known before. My vigor will increase, my enthusiasm will rise, my desire to meet the world will overcome every fear I once knew at sunrise, and I will be happier than I ever believed it possible to be in this world of strife and sorrow."
http://www.networkingtimes.com/trainer/articles/trainer.phtml?article_id=2439
Live The Life You've Dreamed,
Derrick Carpenter
Dreams By Design Team
I help average people increase their income & decrease their taxes
by starting a p/t business from their home...Know anybody that could
use this tax-savings information? http://HOMEBIZTAXBREAKS.BIZ
I'm all a-twitter: http://twitter.com/HomeBizTaxCoach
P.S. You won't believe this website I found: http://PPLProfessionals.com
_______________________________________________________
Affiliate Disclosure: We are grateful to be of service and bring you
content, like this blog post, free of charge. In order to do this, please
note that whenever you click the links in our emails and purchase items,
in most (not all) cases we will receive a referral commission.
Your support in purchasing through these links enables us to empower
more people worldwide to live lives of their own design. Thank you! :)
By David Blanchard
________________________________________
We are living in a most interesting time. Daily, waves of bad news pound against our already badly damaged economy shaking the fragile underpinnings of business and our personal lives. When we personally experience any of these very real, yet unwanted difficulties, we can easily be swept away into the depths of anxiety, frustration and despair.
It is difficult enough to swim against the tide, let go of the anxiety and climb up and out of these circumstances without adding the burden of destructive and unhealthy thought processes. When we engage in destructive thought processes, we engage in fantasy and attempt to put tomorrow's gold in today's purse. We concern ourselves with events, which we may never witness, or we torment ourselves with problems that may never come to pass, that is until they finally become self-fulfilling prophesies.
Og Mandino writes about these unhealthy and destructive habits of thinking, "I have surrendered my free will to the years of accumulated habits and the past deeds of my life have already marked out a path which threatens to imprison my future."
If we get swept into this dark dungeon of the mind it can add enormous amounts of unwanted stress to our lives. Unnecessary stress often results in decreased creativity and productivity, two of the most critical ingredients of success. The inevitable result of these decreases is simply more stress.
In our personal relationships this level of stress can impair our clarity. We can quickly become short-sighted and short-tempered. This slippery slope can destroy commitment and trust, dampen if not destroy much needed intimacy and rip apart once loving relationships. Innocent children often pay the highest price when we are myopic.
However, when we learn to think constructively, we receive inspired ideas, impressions and solutions to problems. This clear vision ignites our passion, which drives our focus, discipline, effort and action. As we live in the now in passion-driven action, people are put on our path whom we can serve and who can serve us. Our natural genius is awakened and accessed. We create tangible results and experience a sense of accomplishment. Our self-esteem heals and our confidence is restored.
When faced with challenges, we create the most we can with what we have been given and see opportunity even if it is limited. We feel connected and alive. In spite of firestorms of life that may be raging around us, we are able to stand with confidence and shout as Albert in the movie, The Count of Monte Cristo, "Do your worst, for I will do mine!"
Viktor Frankl wrote, immediately following his release from a concentration camp, "Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances."
Viktor shared this timely principle in a most poignant context. While in the camp he lost his pregnant wife, his mother and father and several good friends. They were all killed. His life's work, an exhaustive manuscript, was torn up in his face while vile and angry tormenters cursed and scoffed. Everything he had lived for, his family and career, was brutally destroyed.
Viktor and others who were spared from the gas chambers were assigned to grueling work details — an interminable sentence to hell. Beaten down by the shear gravity of their desperate and dire circumstances and with no hope in sight, many gave up. They simply died in their sleep. However, Viktor noted that those who used their minds to vividly visualize constructively, created a clear vision that gave them purpose in their suffering and joy in their journey despite all the catastrophic losses. Many survived.
We would never want to compare the challenges of our day with the horror of a concentration camp. It would be an insult to humanity. What we can do is learn this valuable lesson. In spite of the unspeakable, many still made the conscious decision to exercise the last of the human freedoms — to consciously choose one's attitude in any circumstance, and Viktor meant "any circumstance."
From his words and actions and all those who courageously joined him in this conscious decision to think constructively and live, we can take courage. We can learn how to be okay while standing in the middle of the firestorms of life. When we do, we are free to be in creation — mentally and physically.
To think constructively, find peace of mind and stay in creation, we may have to change some of our old, deeply seated and unhealthy habits of thinking. James Allen wrote, "Let a man radically alter his thoughts and he will be astonished at the rapid transformation it will effect in the material conditions of his life."
It is time to learn the truth about vivid visualization. It is time to know how to use this powerful gift constructively to manifest inspired ideas that will ignite passion and drive action. Let us learn the truth, alter old and destructive habits of thinking and experience the joy and freedom that will inevitably be ours.
Og Mandino says it best in his perennial bestselling book, The Greatest Salesman in the World, "I will begin to awake, each morning, with a vitality I have never known before. My vigor will increase, my enthusiasm will rise, my desire to meet the world will overcome every fear I once knew at sunrise, and I will be happier than I ever believed it possible to be in this world of strife and sorrow."
http://www.networkingtimes.com/trainer/articles/trainer.phtml?article_id=2439
Live The Life You've Dreamed,
Derrick Carpenter
Dreams By Design Team
I help average people increase their income & decrease their taxes
by starting a p/t business from their home...Know anybody that could
use this tax-savings information? http://HOMEBIZTAXBREAKS.BIZ
I'm all a-twitter: http://twitter.com/HomeBizTaxCoach
P.S. You won't believe this website I found: http://PPLProfessionals.com
_______________________________________________________
Affiliate Disclosure: We are grateful to be of service and bring you
content, like this blog post, free of charge. In order to do this, please
note that whenever you click the links in our emails and purchase items,
in most (not all) cases we will receive a referral commission.
Your support in purchasing through these links enables us to empower
more people worldwide to live lives of their own design. Thank you! :)
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