We get to choose our attitude

Has your life ever been in the midst of chaos? I know, I know…. I just heard a huge, resounding “Duh, Chris!” Of course, we’ve all experienced times of chaos in our lives. But what I want to talk about to you today is your attitude in the midst of the chaos.

Now, I think I might have heard a slight groan? Don’t worry, I’m not here to “scold.” Instead, my purpose is to just remind you of what it can be, or to shift a paradigm here. Into all our lives will fall times of challenges or chaos. I am of the belief that they help us forge our character, smooth the rough spots (as I wrote about in The Angel Inside) and prepare us for future challenges or equip us to help others going through similar experiences. All good, right?

Right, until we hit that brick wall that feels 20-feet thick and all of our resolve and vision crumbles and feels like 500-year-old mortar that has been ground to dust and carried away by the wind. Well, for you fans of the Disney movie Finding Nemo, it’s just like what Dory sings/says: “Just keep swimming, just keep swimming.” And not only that, but she’s happy as she goes about her business. Now, don’t read too much into my choice and say something like, “C’mon Chris, that’s just because she’s oblivious to what’s really going on around her and the seriousness of the situation.”

My point is this: We GET to CHOOSE our attitude…. Yes, we can be absolutely miserable in whatever situation we find ourselves in OR we can choose to find the nuggets, the good things even among the challenges. Sometimes you’re going to have to look really hard, but I truly believe there is always something of value that can be found in whatever our situations are.

It’s like Jim Rohn said, “You can use circumstances as a crutch or a school that will either cripple you or teach you for YOUR future.”

You Are Made for Success!



Chris Widener
 
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5 Reasons Why Relationships Should be Your Top Priority

5 Reasons Why Relationships Should be Your Top Priority
By Donald Latumahina
If you are like me, there may be many things you want to achieve in life. You may want to accomplish A and B, achieve C and D, and so on. Yet, you should never forget what your top priority is.



From what I learn, I realize that my top priority should be relationships. I believe they should also be your top priority. Nothing else matters more. Here are why:

1.Relationships fulfill your most important need of all

What is the most important thing people need? No, it’s not money. It’s not achievements nor recognition either. The most important thing people need is love. We all need to love and be loved. Unfortunately, sometimes we are so obsessed with other things that we forget how beautiful it is to love and be loved. Don’t let this happen to you. Love others and be loved. Feel how wonderful it is. Get a taste of love. And how do you do that? Through relationships. This is the only way. There is no other way you can love and be loved but through relationships.

2.Relationships are the place where your greatest joy comes from

One inseparable part of relationships is giving. In fact, I believe that there is no genuine relationship without giving. Whether it is giving your time, attention, money, or just a smile, genuine relationship is all about giving. And believe it or not, there is great joy in giving. We often think only about ourselves that we forget the joy of giving. Life is wonderful when we are thinking about others and not just ourselves.

3.Only through relationships can you give lasting impact to others

Which advice will you listen more, the one from someone you don’t really know, or the one from someone you love? Of course the latter. We appreciate the people we love more than anyone else. Their words sink deep into our heart, not just our mind. That’s why the most effective way to give lasting impact to others is by building relationships with them. Be their friend and care about them, and I’m sure they will listen to you and respect your opinions.

4.Through relationships you have the people to support you in times of trouble

When we face difficult times, we need other people to support us. No one can take care of everything by himself. When the world looks dark and the problem looks big, nothing is more valuable than the support of people we love. They encourage us to go through, they accompany us in the time of trouble, and they are willing to share the burden with us. The journey will become much easier.

5.Eventually, relationships are the only things that matter

When people are dying they do not think about their achievements and awards. They don’t care whether they are rich or famous. All those things become meaningless when people are face-to-face with death. All they want is having the people they love around them. They want the warm of love to be with them in their last moments. Nothing else matters. They realize that, eventually, relationships are the only things that matter. We should not wait until that moment come. We’d better realize it now.


http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2007/02/18/5-reasons-why-relationships-should-be-your-top-priority/



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Do You Want More Energy, Radiant Life, Health, Wealth

Do You Want More Energy, Radiant Life, Health, Wealth


and Happiness? By: A. C. R.





TRY this over on your Mental Piano each morning as the sun rises in the East.



Rise at five o'clock in the Summer and at six o'clock in the Winter months.



Now for five minutes rub your body from head to foot briskly with a dry flesh brush. Then have a quick shower, or better still, a sponge bath, and finish off with cold water and a brisk rub.



Now when you are physically pepped up, and all aglow with each cell of your outer skin radiating above the average amount of ra­diant life, contacting more abundant life, make yourself comfortable in a straight-backed chair.



Now for ten minutes go over the many good and unexpected things God has given to you in the past.



Fill your mind with the Positive, Construc­tive Sunshine of Your Thoughts, praising the Kingdom, Power and Glory of the Source of all Life. The Father Principle of all Love and Life, and all Understanding, within each one of us, that we call God.



Will that this Divine Source of all Knowl­edge shall direct your Thoughts and Words and Deeds.



Realize that your every Thought and Word and Deed is really a Prayer to the Divine Source of all Life, and is always establishing your exact position in the Universe, and show­ing your relation and unfoldment to Divine Guidance.



And now when you have raised your mental and physical and Spiritual rates of Vibrating, Radiant Life, and by willing that you shall be guided by your Inner Voice have put yourself in tune with the Infinite—Now put your Mental Thoughts in order for the Day by going over every detail of the work you are to do and are now planning out in a posi­tive, constructive way.



Plan out your work directed by Divine Un­derstanding from within, ever conscious of that "Wee, Small Voice"—"The Oracle of God"—that will guide your daily work in harmony with Nature's Laws of Life, when you are "In Tune with the Infinite."



This Divine Power within is unlimited in Love, Wisdom and Understanding, and is al­ways anxious to give you everything you are willing to trust this Power to give.



Be confidential with God within, put all Fear, Worry and Doubt out of your heart.



Make the mental picture of your day's work as you wish it to be, and realize what you give to life, life will in turn give back to you; for life attracts like throughout the Universe.



Now go to your breakfast and daily work, doing each task in hand a little better than you did the day before.



Eat your breakfast and live your working day in this wonderful constructive Radiant Understanding of the abundant supply of Life that is all around you, and is a part of you, all guided by Divine Unfoldment.



Be Natural, Be Sincere, but do not be­come a religious fanatic.



Live each hour with a strong desire to be Kind to your horses and cattle that you feed and care for.



To the wonderful perfect grain that Sun­shine, Rain and Divine Understanding has given you from the productive Soil of your Western Ranch.



Scatter Sunshine and Love as you go, to mankind, to your family, and to all life, with which you come in contact.



See and Feel the constructive love that all Life gives to you.



How your Cattle and Horses trust you and want to be where you are.



How your Saddle Horse will follow you about, ever anxious to do your bidding.



Truly you have Dominion over all Life with which you are in contact.



Then are you living a constructive life that will produce Health, Wealth and Happiness for you.


And now before you go to sleep at night, make a positive, constructive Demand to your Inner Self, to the Source of all life within you.


"I desire to do God's will, to be directed by Divine Guidance, to Radiate more sunshine, and love, each day. To do my work better and more in harmony with Nature's Laws, and to be a Man amongst Men, loved by all with whom I come in contact, by the Animals I serve and care for."

"I realize that God's Kingdom within me is the source of all my supply of Health, Wealth and Happiness."

Try this and see how wonderful is the re­ward of living a constructive, Spiritual Life in tune with the Infinite.







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That which you resist persists

Resistance keeps us from learning more about what we resist. In order to fully understand something, we must open to it enough to receive its energy; otherwise, we remain ignorant of its lessons.
What plagues and pursues us on an inner level has a way of manifesting itself in our environment in the form of people, events, and issues that appear to be beyond our control. But all these external expressions are reflections of our insides, and it is inside ourselves that we can safely experiment with surrendering to what we fear and dislike.
It may feel scary, and we may find ourselves in the company of a lot of resistance as we begin the process of opening to what we fear. But the more we learn to surrender, and the more the demons that plague us disappear in the process, the more courageous we will become.


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Take Pride in Your Efforts

Take Pride in Your Efforts



Be willing to say to yourself, “I’m on the right road. I’m doing OK. I’m succeeding.” We too frequently become adept at pointing out our flaws and identifying failures. Become equally adept at citing your achievements. Identify things you are doing now that you weren’t doing one month ago… six months ago… a year ago. What habits have changed? Chart your progress.






Doing well once or twice is relatively easy. Continuously moving ahead is tough, in part, because we so easily revert to old habits and former lifestyles. Over the long run, you need to give yourself regular feedback to monitor your performance and reinforce yourself positively. Don’t wait for an award ceremony, promotion, friend or mentor to show appreciation for your work. Take pride in your own efforts on a daily basis. —Denis Waitley http://bit.ly/cmik7u



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Collectivity reduces fear

Q: What made you continue your involvement in the movement despite your fears?




“But being involved in a cause you believed in, and also working together with other people, was very important in diminishing my fear. Collectivity reduces fear. Community reduces fear. Doing something with other people reduces fear.”



A: If you believed very fervently in what you were doing, if you believed that what you were doing was right, then you were fearful, but you overcame it. Otherwise, you succumbed to those fears and wouldn’t do things that led to fearsome situations. But being involved in a cause you believed in, and also working together with other people, was very important in diminishing my fear. Collectivity reduces fear. Community reduces fear. Doing something with other people reduces fear. I’m sure that soldiers overcome their fear because they are together with other soldiers, even though they still have reason to fear. For me and other people during that time, being part of a movement you believed in and being associated with other people who believed in the same thing, helped you overcome your fear.






Howard Zinn was a political-science professor, historian, social activist and playwright, best known for his book “A People’s History of the United States.” In 1956, Zinn became a professor at Spelman College in Atlanta, a school for black women, where he soon became involved in the civil rights movement. When


he was fired in 1963 for insubordination related to his protest work, he moved to Boston University, where he became a leading critic of the Vietnam War.



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Ambitiously Pursuing Your Own Self-Direction

What is the origin of true ambition? There exists really only one place to find true ambition and that is within you—in every thought, in every movement, in every motivation. Your ambition is an expression of who you truly are, your own self-expression.


Isn't self-expression really self-direction? How you think, how you move, how you motivate yourself. Ambition is a result of self-direction, and self-direction is one of the six key principles necessary for building ambition. Positive self-direction says, "I know who I am and I know where I want to go. I'm accumulating knowledge and experiences and feelings and philosophies that will help prepare me for opportunities that I know will show up without notice or any help on my part." Because you know where you want to go, you have already been working on the parts of your personality that will make you better. Working on your attitude, working on your health, working on your time management skills. Putting it all down on paper. And you constantly see yourself in the place you want to be, going in the direction you want to go.


Direction determines destination. So here is a question you must ask yourself: "Are all the disciplines that I'm currently engaged in taking me where I want to go?" What an important question to ask yourself at the beginning of the month, the beginning of the week, the beginning of the day. Because here is what you don't ever want to do: kid yourself. Kid your neighbor, kid me and kid the marketplace, but don't kid yourself, fingers crossed hoping you will arrive at a good destination when you're not even headed that way. You have to ask yourself often, "Am I?" Am I doing the disciplines that are taking me in the direction I want to go? Don't neglect to ask these important questions, questions that help determine your direction, the set of your sail, your destination.
Is this the direction I want for my life?
Is this someone else's direction?
Is this a goal I have been ingrained with since my childhood?
Is this goal my parents', my spouse's, my boss's, my children's, or is it MINE?
Ask yourself these questions and then debate them. After you have answered these questions within yourself, then take it one step further and ask, "What am I doing that is working or not working?" Debate it all. Work with your mind to figure out the best possible direction for you—your self-direction. And then ambitiously pursue your own self-direction. Let the power of your own ambition take you where you want to go, to do what you want to do, to create the life you want to live! ~ Jim Rohn




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Inspirational Video - The Don't Quit Poem

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